I don’t write alot about myself on this blog because it’s not really about my struggle or my fight. Mostly it’s about my Bees.
But I wanted to share a new person I found, Brene Brown. I am not sure how I stumbled upon her blog but I find myself checking her site for new posts almost daily. In fact, I will admit that I pout if she does not post. I am that hooked. Now, listen to the reason I am hooked and you will be surprised.
Once I found her site and browsed for a few days I realized she was the author of a book. Being the avid reader I am and enjoying my new Kindle a bit too much I purchased her book,
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Then I started reading and going through her “read-along” series with the book. I have to tell you I have had the book for about two months and I am only on chapter three. It really makes me think and think again about things, about me, about being perfect and about shame.
You see long ago in the world of singlehood and college I would show up to an 8am Psych class with a full face of make-up, nails and toes done to match, and undies matching whatever the primary color was on the outside. My shoes matched my purse and my belt (and if it had belt loops there was always a belt).
I can not even begin to tell you how color coordinated my class materials were. Each class had a color right down to the pen I took notes with and the paper those notes were written on.
I weighed a whooping 98 pounds soaking wet. I had big blonde hair. And, a big ‘ole chip on my shoulder. They called me the Ice Princess. I was 19.
I was also a spoiled, only child in a somewhat dysfunctional family. I also lived with my share of shame. And, nope I can’t talk about that one on this blog. I had no intention of getting married or having children. Let me say that again for all who didn’t catch it the first time I had no intention of getting married or having children. My life was perfect and I had created this Person who was perfect too.
It took alot of things happening at once, a few good friends, a some quality time in front of the mirror to get rid of that person. Just in time too because right around the time I “found” myself I met HoneyBee and he found me delightful! Then we had boys, BOYS and I found another part of me. I am a Mom to BOYS. Or, as my new t-shirt says “Boy-Mom.”
Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would become a STRONG advocate for marriage, much less a Mom to BOYS. I cannot be these two things sucessfully if I live in perfectionism or if I carry my shame around. And, these two things are the two things I really want to get right in my life so the other two had to go.
Now, she has another book out and I will never get to read it because it is taking me so long to get through the first one! But I have full, grand intentions to get through both of them.
So, I want to introduce her new book…
Click above to go to Brene's Amazon Store!
If you do one good thing for yourself this week check out Brene’s blog…Ordinary Courage www.ordinarycourage.com and buy her book. Join me in taking off the cloak of perfectionism to live in joy and to BELIEVE that we are better when we embrace ourselves as we really are.
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